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The Whole Woman

Love Yourself

Posted by zee on June 29, 2013 at 6:15 PM

We spend a great deal of time showing our love to others. How much love do show to yourself? Do you carve out some “me time” each week to meditate, read, exercise, and do the things to make your inner beauty shine? Here are some starters:

You’re precious. You are an inherently valuable and lovable person. You have good qualities and less-good qualities, just like everyone else, but you are always special and always worthy of love and happiness. You should be cherished.

You’re not supposed to be perfect. Nobody is great at everything, and perfect in every way. You’re not supposed to be perfect—you’re supposed to be human. Please don’t torture yourself by demanding perfection. It’s an impossible goal.

I love you even when you mess up. Because you’re human, you’re going to make mistakes sometimes—little ones and giant ones. It’s ok to be upset with yourself, or regretful or even to feel guilty, but only for a reasonable amount of time. Then, you need to forgive yourself, learn from the mistake and move on. Your mistakes don’t define you, and shouldn’t control how you feel about yourself for very long. You are still the same precious person.

It’s ok that you’re not always happy. Maybe you feel comfortable in the role of the entertainer, making others smile and laugh (possibly without regard to your own true feelings). Or, maybe you grew up in an atmosphere where you were always expected to be “fine,” and not show sadness or anger. It’s normal to experience a range of emotions, and it’s normal to sometimes have unpleasant feelings. You don’t need to be happy all the time, and you don’t need to pretend that you are to people who are close to you. 

It’s not ok when other people treat you badly. Remember Molly? Since she thinks so little of herself, she thinks it’s fine for other people to treat her badly. It’s not. It’s not OK for people to treat you with disrespect, violence, manipulation, threats, cruelty or a variety of other bad behaviors.  t’s not OK in personal or professional settings. Even if you’re stuck in a situation where you can’t immediately stop or escape the mistreatment, don’t let yourself start to believe that it’s acceptable. You deserve to be treated with basic human kindness, as does everyone else. Anything less is absolutely not ok.

You deserve to be healthy. You deserve to nurture your own physical and emotional health and wellbeing. This means that you need to put yourself somewhere near the top of your priority list. You deserve to take the time and energy necessary to take care of yourself, and to make choices the support health in your life.

Categories: Encouragement , Life

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